The Beauty Of Friendship.

You start out on this walk, all alone and frightened. Otherwise how do you explain the wailing cries 99% of babies make when they first come into this world.
And then step by step the crying has to stop or at least for a while as you adjust to the woman who cuddles you to her body and if you are lucky a man who tries to do the same. Then with time come the aunts and uncles who try a fair job at getting close to you.
But perhaps the best stage of it all is when you finally find another little person who you can fight with as well as be nice to without trying so hard to please or thinking if it is right. “I think at this stage the riddle of your existence seems to be solved,” says Gladys Shazace a Business student at University College Northampton.
I wouldn’t agree more only that I think you appreciate that more when you are older. My mother once told me you make true friends when you are older cause then you both know what you are getting in and treasure it more.
Someone else has said, the people we meet when we are older are not true friends cause they are only there for a moment and don’t know the half that there is to know.
I have caught myself say that loudly as well after a disappointment from an acquaintance I thought was a friend but well this time round I would rather agree with my mother.
Maybe it’s because I am reflecting on two friends I have made in my latter part of life and can’t help but say my mother couldn’t be more than right.
I mean circumstances force you to meet people and they even push you to be nice to them for after all life is most of the time an exchange of energy.
You go into the whole thing thinking-oh will they like me, will it work out and all those other questions lingering on at the back of your mind.
And then ooops you are there going through the formalities trying to register what you like and don’t like and wondering how you will go through this stage of your life.
Then step by step you adjust and in so doing get the best from the other person. And who better at this stage to call friend than this person who is learning and getting to know your life and loving you right that they only bring the best out of you, making your flaws a thing of the past.
I know it almost doesn’t happen like this all the time but when it does it is beautiful cause then you most certainly know that at every step of your life you can sure count on this friend. For after all you have trusted them with your secrets, your possessions and your inner being and can now count on them to make sure you are keeping in step with being happy and all because you found each other.

Pressing For Fulfillment.

Been reading about a black woman who raised her seven children to integrate in the white system in 1970’s Mississippi.
It must have been so hard as the segregation was out right clear as other people were determined to fight tooth and nail against integration of the black people in society.
Just thinking about how many people were not as bold and motivated as she to do their level best to catch up with the top dogs. I am not sure I would have been that determined with everything so against and in the way of any possibilities and yet she did it.
Without thinking about what I should or not have done just want to thank God that I live in a time where there is no segregation where my limitations are not based on race. In addition, am just so grateful for all those men of power you put in place that fought for the redemption of people of colour to be treated just as all people.
Deep within me I can’t help but believe just like the animals in Animal farm put it, “All animals are equal but some are more equal than others” However regardless of my prejudices am thankful that you enabled the times we live in to recognise that all people regardless of race deserve to be treated equally.

Hem of His Robe

“Happiness is never something you get from other people .The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to the love you give.” Oprah

I am thankful that yesterday in church the Almighty reminded me of where I have always got my happiness from-In Him.
Of late been trying to get my happiness in man, letting people define my happiness and of course the results have been despair. You can only let yourself be disappointed for so long especially if you are lucky to know and acclaim the father as your saviour.
I just want to thank God that my happiness is assured in him; all of it is from him even when I fail to see it. Moreover, even in moments when I have been so unhappy it has been for my future happiness as he tries to teach me to surrender to him who commands my destiny to him who has only plans to prosper me and not to harm me.