Celebrating the Life of Our Dear Departed.

Death just like birth is one of those universal things that we all as human beings must one day face. It reminds me of wise King Solomon rightfully putting it in Ecclesiastes, there is a time for everything , a time to laugh a die to cry, a time to live, and a time to die …his message being there is a season and a time for everything under heaven.

This March my family was overshadowed with darkness as on 19th March 2014 we lost an anchor to the family, a grandfather, father, husband and friend, my uncle Absalom Luyindi  Sengendo. Death of  beloved one is something I wouldn’t want to wish on my worst enemy{luckily I don’t have those} Naturally it’s a dark season for everyone and during those times am one of those people who tends to get locked  into a thought process of life and its meaning and the afterlife.  One such moment was when in July 2012 my father passed on. That time I found solace in the fact that we should thank God that such men have lived instead of mourning them. As I slowly tuned my mind to think gratitude I was ever so grateful that me and my siblings were not orphaned at a young age as many of our colleagues were. Of course in this dark season, things are so blurred that no matter how old a person is, or how long they have been ill, the reality of it happening, hits us in such a hard way that it is nothing short of a miracle if in the moment we determine to keep positive.

There is a song that has a lyric that here on earth we are a flower quickly fading and as I think about that truth it re-emphasizes to me that life hinges on the Lord, whether we acknowledge it or not, He is the potter and we are the clay and its best to sing with Him if for nothing else so we can live on eternally after our business here on earth is done.

When I started off writing this i thought I would feel the pages, but the mystery of life and why we are here and where we are going has left me short of words, and I guess I will just end with a prayer that even at our lowest may we long with our every being to know God better, to understand His way and find His will for our lives.

 

 

Of Love and Happy Endings

Love, love and more love came to mind a lot in the last month, more so because February for a long time in my life has stood out as the month of love. And naturally as I reflected on love and especially the kind most celebrated in February I couldn’t help but wonder where my “Happy ending” is?

This is not because I am not happy, but because where I come from we are raised to live in the fairy tale end of; and they lived happily ever after. There is something in the air where in an ideal world when the story takes off, you go to school, with a university education a must in this script, where along the way your better half not only comes in the picture but goes the extra mile with not only a traditional fairy tale ceremony to celebrate your union but a formal church wedding and reception to crown it all. The world seems to clock out after that and tick you off in the books of those who have made “it” with just a few still peeping in and meddling to see if there any kids  or further studies after. Let’s say you are safe if you make it as far as the wedding and at least would have made “it”.

I haven’t made the “it” according to the world I was raised in hence the wondering, where is my happy ending? Naturally because I was raised in that kind of environment, much as I may try to disguise the lack of “it” with other achievements it keeps resurfacing. When you are surrounded by family and friends, you will have the one who is bold every once in a while to ask what is holding you back in your delivery. However this year I am well far from pressing, well-meaning friends and relatives and yet the lack of “it” seems to still come up as I go about my business asking, where is my happy ending.

Since there is no one prodding me and yet the lack of the “It” keeps bugging me. I think it is time to take the bull by the horns and get on the search for this “It”, after all much as it is not in the Bible, everyone will tell you, “God helps those who help themselves”. Watch out “it”, I am on the hunt for that happy ending, so help me God.