Letting go and letting Him

Life is to be shared and it definitely opens a completely new world to you when you find that one special person. However, what happens when that one person is not all that they seemed to be and all the hopes you have built in them come collapsing down.
When it becomes clear that without trading your belief’s and your God the best thing is to let go.
Just thankful that today I am working on letting go –knowing people and letting them be .I have to remember to say thank you again if only to keep me going . Right now it seems like the hardest thing to accept that a special person’s purpose in my life is done with and I have to start out again on what seems a lonely path.
My decision to let go is reminding me of my love for the saviour and am thankful that the Lord has instigated in me such great love and wisdom to discern when I should let go and let Him. I am thankful that it is teaching me to overcome my natural inborn tendencies to put myself first and instead put my God first.
I am thankful that it is teaching me to trust my father above. I am happy too that this pain is for a reason and once I have truly let go I will look back and give praise for his goodness.
Thank you Lord that even in such times you never let go of us and I pray for other young people who may have invested time in a relationship but have to let go that you give them the strength .Thank you Jesus that you are not just faithful but you are sufficient.

In Stride.

"And we know that God causes everything to work together for good for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them."Romans 8:28
Sometimes you read scripture and well it is just words that in the moment do not speak into your circumstances. I memorised Romans 8:28 way back as a teenager and I have since used it on several occasions to encourage me and rebound me to the purposes of the Lord in my life. Last Saturday created another opportunity for me to be encouraged with this great scripture …only that this time it spoke in my life not only tremendously but also in a whole new light.
I mean sometimes when we give in to temptation there are consequences and if you are not careful, they may overtake you. I had one of those acting so irrationally moments, that when I stopped to think the me I know and love did not fit in the picture. In addition, try as I may, questions just kept popping in and out of my head…as if I did not feel guilty enough they rolled and rolled that it started to feel like a punishment. Just as I was starting to despair that precious word took over my thinking and the more I thought I about it the more everything made sense to the point of everything falling in place if not justified.
I have never been one to think that bad things especially done by us also revolve around God’s purpose of us being fulfilled…there are no words to explain but my moment of sheer anger and acting stupidly was saving me from being taken advantage of, from being carried away with the excitement of the moment.
I do not even have words to comprehend the protection of the Lord I have felt since then and still do in everything I do. If we just pause and let Him, God is leading us on.

Building Relationships.

As a young girl I was taught to summarise the word Joy as “Jesus first, Others next and Yourself last”. Emphasis was put on the fact that if I followed that principle, then I would be assured of joy in my life. With time as I started not only to engage my brain more but also to relate more with people, I couldn't help but think what a joke the whole "joy" concept was. Time has taught me that putting others before you is easy if they are going out of their way to make you happy. But what happens if all you are getting is hurt and rejection from those you have put first at all costs? The truth is whether I want it or not, you and I need people to live life with. Needless to say, it is a continuous struggle if we are to put others no matter what before ourselves.

However why not start just by involving people in our lives? After all our lives are enhanced by the relationships we have. I am sure you have had one of those days where a kind word, hug or kiss from a special loved one and in some cases a stranger has made a difference to an otherwise gloomy day. I believe human beings are relational in nature. The world has put it simply as "No man is an Island", and I couldn't agree more. In addition, relationships are very vital to the quality of life that we have.

Growing up in a not so small family, I had those moments where I just needed some time to myself and as a teenager; I asked one of my married friends if they ever had that urge to have space away from their spouse. ‘Of course’, was the reply as naturally we all need that one to one time when we can reflect without any background noise although however, that is not to say that people aren't important for if we can't get along with people, then there's a ceiling on our lives. A better way of looking at it is how the Ten Commandments are summed up. The first to the fifth of the laws relate to our relationship with God while the sixth to the tenth, our relationship with other people.

Every one of us was created to have a relationship with God and a relationship with other people. If you thought you could do without people, there's no way out since relating to both our creator and fellow man is the most important thing we can do. Someone else said that in order to be happy in life, we just have to spend time with the people we love. Put in another way, we have to place value on the people we live with and in the end everyone will be happy.

The Beauty Of Friendship.

You start out on this walk, all alone and frightened. Otherwise how do you explain the wailing cries 99% of babies make when they first come into this world.
And then step by step the crying has to stop or at least for a while as you adjust to the woman who cuddles you to her body and if you are lucky a man who tries to do the same. Then with time come the aunts and uncles who try a fair job at getting close to you.
But perhaps the best stage of it all is when you finally find another little person who you can fight with as well as be nice to without trying so hard to please or thinking if it is right. “I think at this stage the riddle of your existence seems to be solved,” says Gladys Shazace a Business student at University College Northampton.
I wouldn’t agree more only that I think you appreciate that more when you are older. My mother once told me you make true friends when you are older cause then you both know what you are getting in and treasure it more.
Someone else has said, the people we meet when we are older are not true friends cause they are only there for a moment and don’t know the half that there is to know.
I have caught myself say that loudly as well after a disappointment from an acquaintance I thought was a friend but well this time round I would rather agree with my mother.
Maybe it’s because I am reflecting on two friends I have made in my latter part of life and can’t help but say my mother couldn’t be more than right.
I mean circumstances force you to meet people and they even push you to be nice to them for after all life is most of the time an exchange of energy.
You go into the whole thing thinking-oh will they like me, will it work out and all those other questions lingering on at the back of your mind.
And then ooops you are there going through the formalities trying to register what you like and don’t like and wondering how you will go through this stage of your life.
Then step by step you adjust and in so doing get the best from the other person. And who better at this stage to call friend than this person who is learning and getting to know your life and loving you right that they only bring the best out of you, making your flaws a thing of the past.
I know it almost doesn’t happen like this all the time but when it does it is beautiful cause then you most certainly know that at every step of your life you can sure count on this friend. For after all you have trusted them with your secrets, your possessions and your inner being and can now count on them to make sure you are keeping in step with being happy and all because you found each other.

Pressing For Fulfillment.

Been reading about a black woman who raised her seven children to integrate in the white system in 1970’s Mississippi.
It must have been so hard as the segregation was out right clear as other people were determined to fight tooth and nail against integration of the black people in society.
Just thinking about how many people were not as bold and motivated as she to do their level best to catch up with the top dogs. I am not sure I would have been that determined with everything so against and in the way of any possibilities and yet she did it.
Without thinking about what I should or not have done just want to thank God that I live in a time where there is no segregation where my limitations are not based on race. In addition, am just so grateful for all those men of power you put in place that fought for the redemption of people of colour to be treated just as all people.
Deep within me I can’t help but believe just like the animals in Animal farm put it, “All animals are equal but some are more equal than others” However regardless of my prejudices am thankful that you enabled the times we live in to recognise that all people regardless of race deserve to be treated equally.

Hem of His Robe

“Happiness is never something you get from other people .The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to the love you give.” Oprah

I am thankful that yesterday in church the Almighty reminded me of where I have always got my happiness from-In Him.
Of late been trying to get my happiness in man, letting people define my happiness and of course the results have been despair. You can only let yourself be disappointed for so long especially if you are lucky to know and acclaim the father as your saviour.
I just want to thank God that my happiness is assured in him; all of it is from him even when I fail to see it. Moreover, even in moments when I have been so unhappy it has been for my future happiness as he tries to teach me to surrender to him who commands my destiny to him who has only plans to prosper me and not to harm me.